How I struggled with being overweight and how I plan on tackling my self-image in 2019

Welcome back! We made it through 2018. This year, for me, has been a rollercoaster. I moved to LA, graduated college, and signed a lease for my very own studio apartment! Sure, I struggled, especially when I totaled my first car and fell into a pit of depression. BUT! Here I am! Thriving and manifesting!

Since it’s about that time of year to make resolutions, I thought it be a great idea for me to share some of my goals for this upcoming year. This is a great time of year for people to take control of their fitness and health. Summer will creep up soon, and everyone wants to look good!

Most of my life, I have been overweight. My earliest memories the pediatrician’s office consist of the doctor’s telling me I am not like other girls. One doctor so lovingly put it, “Some girls can eat 10 brownies and not gain a pound, while others look at a brownie and gain 10 pounds.” Doctors should really not talk to young girls this way, because it pits us against each other while feeding into the unrealistic standards of beauty. Of course, growing up chubby was not easy. All my friends were skinny and got a lot of attention as they went through puberty to become beautiful women. I was always tall, heavy, and awkward. I truly hated my friends for the longest time due to their looks and all the attention they got when I was young. Now, of course I’ve come to my senses and realized hating skinny people will not make me lose weight or be healthy. I struggled throughout high school as well. Since I went to an all girls Catholic high school, I struggled with body positivity because I was always comparing myself to others. “Why can’t I be as skinny as her?” “I wish I had a thigh gap.” “This jumper makes me look so much bigger than I already am.” I lost a couple pounds my senior year of high school, which made me feel great! Girls at school could tell I was someone toned when my thighs would slip out from my jumper. I started running at the time, but quickly made an excuse to give it up.

On top of that, advertisements for women’s health and beauty only highlights skinny, toned women. Thankfully, I had a Tumblr during high school that opened my eyes to the double standard for women’s health. Say what you want about Tumblr, but I think I would have been much more depressed and suicidal if I wasn’t on Tumblr as a high schooler. It felt good to know there were other girls out there that looked like me and struggled to find real representation for their bodies.

College was rough. So fearful of gaining the Freshman 15, I started incorporating a gym routine my first semester. I would go to class with a gym bag. On my big break, I would work out and shower before my next class. I grooved with this schedule a lot, until I had to go for my annual doctor’s visit. My bloodwork showed my thyroid levels were messed up. This destroyed all my momentum to continue taking care of myself. I felt defeated that my body was chemically inclined to not want to lose weight. However, through a few follow up appointments, the doctors concluded I didn’t have a thyroid issue. It must have been a virus or something temporary. I didn’t care about that, because I didn’t think my health really mattered. I went through college eating crap and barely taking control of myself. It did not help that I worked at a sports bar where I would eat greasy food late at night. I gave up any idea that I have control of my weight.

Moving to LA forced me to have control over what I put into my body. I started to cook for myself. For the first time, I felt good about the food I was eating. Learning about the control I have over my food in this way really helped me see my body for what it really is. I am not fat. I have fat. The fat can go away if I put in work. I came home to visit my family and friends in August to find out I lost 20 pounds over the summer! I was not working out or really trying to lose weight. Taking that step to cook for myself really opened my eyes to how much control I really have over myself. Now, I started working out more. My body feels like it is growing strong.

I gave up the idea a long time ago that I would be a size 2/Victoria’s Secret model skinny. I am sooooooooo happy that pop culture promotes “thick” women. Sure, the representation might not be the best yet, but women are working together to ensure everyone feels represented.

There is one thing that will sound bitchy, but I need to address it for my sanity. If you are skinny/have low body fat and you know it, stop complaining to your heavy friends. It makes us feel like shit, even if you don’t intend that. Your words deflect onto our self-image. Instead of saying “I look fat,” say “I feel bloated today” or “I do not like how these clothes fit me.” You will never understand how painful it is to hear someone who fits the standard complain about their weight when you know that your BMI is on the obese scale. Yes, our society teaches EVERYONE to hate the way they look, but stop talking like this because it’s feeding into it. Change how you discuss your weight with people who do not have the same body shape as you.

2109. What are my goals? I plan on working out 4-6 days a week, depending on my work schedule. I know people might be wondering what I do in the gym. Well, I go for an hour. I start my workout by run/walking on the treadmill for 15 minutes. I walk at 4 mph with a 3.0 incline for the first 5 minutes. Then, I run at 5 mph at 1.0-1.5 incline for 4-5. Back to walking like before. I am working towards running the entire 15 minutes, but I need to pace myself. After the treadmill, I do some weight lifting with the machines at the gym. I rotate between arms/back, legs, and abs. I like to do 4 sets of 15 reps on each machine. This has really helped me enjoy the gym, because I can feel my body gaining muscle. I have fallen in love wit the feeling of building muscle. After weights, I do another 20-30 minutes of cardio either on a bike or elliptical. I will sometimes split that time and do 15 minutes on different cardio machines. Once my workout is done, I sit on a massage chair for 5 minutes. Finding a relaxing activity after an intense workout really helps motivate you to finish your workout and center yourself for the rest of the day.

Since I am learning to love my body through this change, I want to be able to take more pictures of myself. It is sad I missed out on some many photo opportunities because I looked fat. I want to be happy with my looks, and taking/posting pictures is a great way for me to stay motivated throughout this weight loss journey.

Here are my resolutions for the new year!

  1. work out 4-6 (like I mentioned)
  2. Write everyday
  3. Watch all the movies that I keep saying I will watch or just sit in my Netflix Queue
  4. Make enough money to start really saving and investing for the future
  5. Continue working on self-control and letting go of the idea that I have control over situations and others that I may be involved with.

Thank you for taking the time to read this! Feel free to share with me some of your goals. I am taking film suggestions for the new year!

Love,

Sabrina

 

 

Happy Holiday’s from Sabrina Shits!

Hey, everyone! Sabrina here to bring you another “shit” blog post. I feel terrible that I allowed myself to take a week off, but I’m back to talk about the obvious, Christmas. Well, the Holidays, but mostly Christmas. Sorry everyone who doesn’t celebrate :/

This past Thanksgiving, I spent the holiday by myself 2,000 miles away from my family in Philadelphia. During that long weekend, I thought about writing a blog post on how to cope with spending the holidays alone. I worked for four years at a sports bar where I worked almost every holiday, even Christmas. This recent Thanksgiving was really relaxing, because I had no obligations. There is a relieving feeling when you have no plans or stress while everyone around you scrounges to make sure everything is in order. 

Juxtaposing my Thanksgiving alone to my first Christmas back in Philadelphia has been interesting. I went from not having to talk or see anyone to running around like a chicken without a head trying to say hello to everyone. Trying to schedule out all the people I want to see with all the family obligations I have can be a challenge, but I’m working on seeing everyone I care about. 

Of course, I have to prepare my script for what I have to say when people ask me about LA. “I work as a background actor for tv shows through central casting, which is a way I get to be on a production set. I also work at a catering hall on the weekends as another income. Plus, I am writing a new short with my buddy Paul!” [Once Paul and I are COMPLETELY finished with the script, I will give you guys more details into our writing process and stuff. For now, all I want to say it’s going to be a short spy film.] It refreshing to hear people from home tell me that they are happy for me to be on my path, because I often fall for self-doubt that keeps me from unleashing my creativity. Disclaimer, I hate talking about myself, so catch me asking you about every person in your family before I tell you about Central Casting. Although it does become repetitive repeating how you are through small talk, I find it comforting that people this time of year try to put their egos aside to care about one another. THAT IS THE REAL THEME FOR CHRISTMAS! As much as I want this Christmas to be like the rest of my Christmases prior, I know there has been a shift from the move. My family and friends do this really funny thing where they explain something that I already knew but they assume I forgot. It’s mostly small, trivial details, but I think it’s cute and funny. Reminder to self: Be present this holiday season. 

So, what do I like to do over the holidays whether I am alone or among my loved ones or working?

  1. Watch my favorite tv show’s Christmas specials

 I love Bojack Horseman! I know my readers would like me to stop talking about Bojack. No. aha. Sorry. If you are a Bojack fan, check out the Bojack Christmas special which is an episode of Horsin’ Around! I’m a very big fan of Bob’s Burgers as well, and they have a ton of good Christmas episodes. My favorite is “Father of the Bob.” Other tv shows with awesome Christmas specials are That 70s Show, The Sopranos, and It’s Always Sunny in Philadelphia. 

2) Have some relaxing me time. 

That’s right, go sit in warm bath for an hour. When the girl at Lush asks you who your gift box of bath bombs are for, say yourself! I found taking the time to relax on Thanksgiving to be really helpful to ease the anxiety I felt from missing out on the holiday. How I like to relax is to sit in a warm bathtub, put on a facemask, and go to bed early! 

3) Take a moment to think about all the positives in my life even if I feel extremely negative. It is easy for people, especially me, to focus on what is wrong opposed to what is right. The Holidays really draw that emotion in for me. Maybe, it’s from all the spending to the bombardment of advertisements and social media posts. It is way too easy to be negative at the holiday when so much of our world suffers. Always take the time to be happy that you are alive in this time and have the fortune to be your situation. If your situation is rough, take the time to think of ways to get out of the situation and be thankful there is a way out. 

Happy Holidays, loves! As a way I would like to get to know my readers a little more, I want you guys to send me a picture of your first ornament! I think they are absolutely adorable, and I will post a picture of mine on instagram! 

Love,

Sabrina

P.S.- If any of my readers feel extremely depressed or anxious this holiday, send me a message and we can talk! 

Understanding My Astrology Signs

Today, I am going to talk about my love for astrology that will lead into a description of my sun, rising, and moon sign. It has definitely become a trend to be into astrology due to meme culture, which is a good thing! Finding a way to relate to world at large, using Astrology or not, does not harm and ultimately makes you feel like a good person.

Ever since I was little, I had a deep appreciation for space. I loved to study the planets. My mom would take me to the library, and I would borrow all the VHS tapes about the planets. Space may be the most beautiful thing ever, in my opinion. I loved the idea of having a constellation that helped define basic characteristics about myself. It’s just so cool. I love to learn what signs people are, even if I’m just talking to them in the coffee shop line lol. I don’t know, I’m just OBSESSED.

My birthday is October 7th, which makes me a Libra! Libras are the best. Don’t believe me? Look up famous Libras. Libras are the only sign in the entire zodiac sign not ruled by an animal. The whole deal with Libras is they are all about fairness. They thrive in environments that are equal with lots of communication. Ironically, Libras are known to be anti-confrontational due to ruining the harmony in the relationships. When Libras do let out their confrontational side, it can be ugly. Libras are all about beauty, so for them getting ugly is not their forte. Libra equals balance.

Anyway, my cousin told me about having a rising sign in ADDITION to my sun sign. She described the rising sign as how you appear to the world. Of course, I had to find out what mine is! My mom loves to tell the story about my birth, since I was seven days late and asleep during labor. She reminds me of my birth time a lot. I go google and type in “Rising Sign Calculator.” Put my birthday and birth time. The page takes a second to load, and reveals my rising sign to be…Pisces! Since Pisces are the last sign of the zodiac, they are the most selfless. Don’t forget this, because it will becoming ironic later. Through some research on Youtube, I learned more what it means to be a Pisces Rising. Hannah’s Elsewhere is the channel I go to a lot to get a lot of my information. She said that Pisces Rising are very giving, almost to a fault. Couldn’t be more true for me. Also, she mentioned that Pisces rising are very intuitive, emotional, and empathetic. Okay, good qualities, nice. Of course, every sign has a dark side. Pisces risings can be “know it alls” and are more likely to abuse substances. I think it’s very important to learn about the dark side. Having negative qualities does not make you a negative person! Just because you feel “bad” rather down or very negative, learning about how to help you feel more positive about the imperfections will only lead you to be happier with who you are. I needed to get that out to feel better.

Ok, so I’m a Libra Sun with a Pisces Rising. I come off as a dreamy, know it all. Once you talk or listen to me, you learn that I’m a Libra in the true definition of the word. How I appear and how I act, what more can there be?

WELL, I found out quickly after finding out my rising sign that I also have a MOON SIGN. OMG! Basically, your moon sign rules emotion and the side of you that you shield off from the world. Only a selective few people who truly understand you see your moon sign. I go back to google to find a moon sign calculator. Punch my birth information back in. Wait a second to learn…I have an Aries Moon. WAIT, WHAT?

I think I have always given Aries a bad rap. I blame my little sister, who is an Aries. Since Aries are the first of the Zodiac, they are the most involved with themselves. (Remember how Pisces are the most selfless. Now, you know my irony). Aries are a fire sign, so they are filled with energy. Aries are hardworking, driven, and passionate. Although Aries have a lot of positive qualities, their negative qualities are the most annoying to deal with. Aries are often very selfish and do not care about others’ needs. The sooner they understand this, the sooner they can collectively take steps into understanding their elder signs. They can learn a thing or two from them. Having Aries as my Moon placement ultimately means that I have the emotional temperament of a child. I can be moody and whiny, but I can quickly get out of that with the simplest thing. I resented having this moon placement for a long time. I don’t hate Aries at all. I just hated that I had these qualities that clashed with my other signs.

What does that teach me? My Aries Moon tells me that I have an innocence within me that has the power to make me selfish and bossy. However, I have my Libra Sun to equal out those qualities. I am constantly working on being a better person. My chart placements just scream that I am an emotional person and I need to keep them under control. I benefit from expression and creativity.

Now, I will share my entire chart! Do not worry, I’m not going to describe each sign.

Sun Sign – Libra

Rising Sign – Pisces

Moon Sign – Aries

Mercury Sign – Libra

Venus Sign – Libra

Mars Sign – Scorpio

Jupiter Sign – Sagittarius

Saturn Sign – Pisces

Neptune Sign – Capricorn

Uranus Sign – Capricorn

Pluto Sign – Scorpio

North Node – Libra

Ah, it’s so cool to learn all this stuff. If anyone reading wants to find out their chart, here’s the link the website I always use. https://alabe.com/freechart/ Make sure you know your exact birth time and birth place!

You may be asking how I relate astrology to film. Well, when I enter the early stages of writing, I like to figure out my character’s astrology sign as a way to determine their basic characteristics. Since I know a lot about each signs and how they act, I apply that knowledge to character building. It really helps my creative process for better, more effective writing. Feel free to message me to learn more about my technique!

I know some of you voted for my weight loss journey blog post, and that will arrive with the new year! I think it is more appropriate timing.

Feel free to share your chart with me if you wish! I would love to know more about my readers 🙂 Bonus points if we share placements!

 

About “The Sirens” and a BONUS film challenge

Hey, everyone! Thank you all for coming back to read more! 

Update on my last post. I found a studio apartment where I will be living alone! I am very excited to have the opportunity to live on my own. Like every other girl, I would love to get married and have kids. So, having the next couple years on my own will be so cool! I will definitely write a whole post about moving into your own place once I’m done decorating. 

Anyway, I wanted to discuss where I am at with making my directorial debut. About three years ago, I wrote a short film called “The Sirens.” It is about a girl gang who are hired by women to kill abusive husbands/partner. Originally, the script centered around the character, Arielle, who is the laidback leader of the trio. The rewriting and failed attempts to get the project into pre-production allowed me to rethinking the project as a whole. Instead of focusing on Arielle, I wanted to expand the short film into a series of short films. Essentially, Celeste and Margo will get their own short (the other girls in The Sirens). Also, there will be an over arching conflict that connects the series. The project deserves to be a series, rather a limited series. Since I am trying to portray abuse which is a LARGE problem, I think it is fitting that there are a few examples of it. 

As of now, Arielle’s and Margo’s introductions–the first two films in the series– have been written. I think Margo’s needs a little more finessing, but solid. I am writing Celeste’s introduction. 

Ideally, I would like to enter pre-production for the introductions by May. I keep trying to recruit people for the project, but life seems to get into the way. The timing was wrong for me to try to plan shooting right after my summer program. 

I kept feeling disappointed with myself for not having everything in order to make these films! I love the idea. People who I explain the project to always sound really excited about the idea. In addition to needing to sort out my life, I had a lot of self-doubt about my creativity. In college, I chose to go down the screenwriting track opposed to the directing. My heart wanted me to still make this film or something while I was studying, but I never made the time for it. I came to the realization that the only person actually in the way of me going through with this idea is..me.

There is no doubt that this will be an uphill battle. HOWEVER, I am ready to climb! Anyone who wants to be a part of this project, you know how to get in contact. 

Since you stuck with my post, I am going to treat you guys to my edition of the 10 day film challenge circling instagram! Reminder of the rules, there is no explanation and no order. Just an image from the film. Of course, these 10 film stills come from “The Sirens” Lookbook. 

1) Death Proof tumblr_nmcshj3ULB1sboxlio3_1280.jpg

2) Her 40074910_10211478047936378_19929030505529344_o

3) The Neon Demon The-Neon-Demon-Jesse-the-neon-demon-40305692-1897-1286

4) The Great Beauty 39937450_10211473159214163_7698861167367684096_o

5) City of Women 39997295_10211478058096632_6978327876013654016_o

6) Sunset Boulevard 40136566_10211494033856016_6648480138642063360_o

7) Goodfellas 40125368_10211494046976344_3933625465389973504_o

8) Little Miss Sunshine 40104955_10211494054256526_6127580084007075840_o

9) Blue Velvet 40139907_10211494065336803_262933431095132160_o

10) Good Will Hunting 39934459_10211473224935806_1818821746803867648_n